How to Generate Massive Agreement within Minutes of Meeting Anybody

You can influence other person many different ways. Some ways are simple, some ways are tough. You can bribe people, you can threaten people. You can appeal to their ego or their wallets. You can even make them feel good for being persuaded, or you can make an instant and everlasting enemy.

Because you are reading this helpful article, you are concerning to learn a simple way to influence someone to do almost anything you wish for. They'll not only be pleased you did it, but they'll want you to do it to their friends too. Behold your new powers of persuasion, for they are fantastic.

The first thing you have to do is to establish rapport. Rapport is a very powerful circumstance to be in. It is also one that few people understand. Basically, the state of rapport means that you feel an incredible connection to somebody. Somebody that you just met or somebody you've known a long time. Powerful persuaders can produce a feeling of rapport in matter of minutes.

The best and quickest way to build rapport is to match them in as many ways as you can. Follow the way they talk, the way they move, the words that they use and even the tonality of their voice. When they scratch their nose, you scratch your cheek. When they scratch their ear, you scratch your nose. If you are afraid of getting caught, don't worry. Most people never focus on to another person's body language.

Okay, so you are in deep rapport, what do you do next?

It is time to start leading them a bit. Lean back if you are sitting, and see if they do the same thing. Scratch your ear, and see what happens. Once you've got them following you, you are prepared for the Jedi mind tricks.

Get them talking about something. And once they are talking about anything that is important to them, elicit their criteria. If they say they enjoy swimming, ask them what they like about it so much. Agree that whatever reason they come up with is valuable and important. This is their criteria. And once you have this, it's like taking candy from a baby.

Now that you have their criteria, you can begin to control it. Once they give you a few deeper reasons for some of the things they like, remember them. Then later in the conversation, when you start to bit by bit steer it towards what you want them to do, casually clarify that many others have done what you want them to do, and they have experienced anything it was they gave for one of their criterion.

Keep in two things. One is that when you first begin to try this, it will seem clumsy at first. That's okay. Keep at it. The second thing is that you'll notice that when you get done with this, it is a very powerful and persuasive technique to almost bend people to your will. Be careful.

Are You Waiting For Permission?

Are you waiting for someone else to come by and give you permission to do what you really want to do? Does just taking action make you feel guilty or worry "what will others think"?

Well, I'm here to tell you that there's no fairy godmother, and there is no mythical authority on high that is going to drop by and bestow this permission on you. Give yourself permission, you need to.

Give yourself permission to do what you want to do and most need. This is not narcissistic or selfish. It is totally not. We are all related and it always matters to act in a way that serves your highest good and the highest good of all. On the other hand, if you leave yourself dying on the vine, how does that serve you? How does that serve others? When you play victim and martyr to the cause you sell yourself short and ultimately rob others of what you most want to give them.

For a simple example, there is the excuse Mom's always use as to why they can't take any time for themselves-"The kids need me!" Yes they do Moms, but if there is no YOU left to give, they are getting ripped off because they are only getting a burned out, exhausted, and perhaps even resentful YOU.

Or, another example, this time from the workplace. Taking a break for lunch would allow you to work at your best. You never take the time because "there's too much to do!", "other people don't", or "my employer frowns upon us taking breaks". Well, is it more important to lean to your health and well-being knowing that you will be far more effective to serve the business if you take a break or is it better to wander around, whine about it, and essentially serve the lowest good for both yourself and the business? You get to choose.

One of the favorite rules I was learnt by a successful woman who knew how to get things done AND build good relationships was "I'd rather ask for forgiveness… not permission." Now I'm not talking about going off the deep end here or doing something wildly out of integrity, unethical, illegal, immoral, etc. I'm talking about doing what you CAN do.

Move those dreams forward. Meet your needs in a healthy and energizing way. No one is coming to give you permission to live your life.

What is one thing you've most wanted to do that you keep hemming and hawing about because you don't feel you "should" or you're waiting for permission? It might look like quiet time every morning. Date nights with your lover. Perhaps you want to tell your mind on an important issue at work or start a project that others keep dragging their feet on. You might even be just eager to withdraw some obligations on your calendar.

Whatever it is - allow yourself does it. I guarantee you'll feel glad you did. Keep in mind that regrets are more about what we don't do than what we do. So give yourself permission to take back the times of your own choices.

Prevent Panic Attacks

By now you're no stranger to Panic Attacks. You know their symptoms. You know they can't kill you despite the fear you have during the attack.

And...

You know the techniques that calm you down when they strike.

That's all well and good. Don't get me wrong. But it's just not enough.

See, I don't want you to spend the rest of your life as some kind of Panic Attack "Kung Fu Master", fighting off the attacks with every bout, waiting patiently for the next one to come around the corner.

I don't care how prepared someone is for a Panic Attack. I guarantee they would rather avoid them altogether than go through a lot of self meditation to slow their heart palpitations.

Knowing the Panic Attack self-defense that I've taught you from my articles is important. But it's not my goal for you to be the most well adjusted Panic Attack sufferer. My goal for you, is to end the Panic Attacks altogether. I never want you to have another Panic Attack again in your life. That's it. Sure it will take some baby steps to get there, but know that ultimately, I'm looking to completely rid you of your Panic Attacks for life. This site has done it for hundreds of other people and you're no exception. Follow my lead and you'll be cured of Panic Attacks just like they are now.

Controlling Your Thoughts
Thoughts are things. You'll hear me say that over and over again. What I mean by that is...

When you have negative thoughts, negative things will come into your life. Conversely when you have positive thoughts, positive things will come into your life. That's because thoughts steer the direction of your life.

Everything in your life up to this point is a result of the thoughts in your head. This includes the shirt on your back, the car that your drive, the food in your fridge, the house that you live in, the dog you now own...

...Everything.

Whatever it is, you thought your way into having that thing.

Now, this theory is an introduction to the fundamental thinking behind "The Law of Attraction". You may have heard of the book "The Secret". That too is based on the Law of Attraction.

Today's lesson on preventing Panic Attacks relates to this law. Allow me to explain...

A Panic Attack in itself (aside from the physical symptoms) is a negative thought loop that spirals downward out of control.

Panic Attack circumstances can be different for everyone. Speaking personally, mine would often happen when I was at work on a stressful phone call.

I would think...

"I hate being on the phone like this. This is so stressful. Ughhhh, when is this ever going to end?"

As my negative thoughts escalated, so did my heart rate and breathing. Shortly after, the Panic Attack would then ensue.

Your thoughts are just as responsible for your own attacks. Put quite simply, your mind is just not in a happy place when your anxiety spirals into the attack. So to prevent the Panic Attack, you're going to learn to control your thinking and in turn prevent falling down that negative thought spiral.

Consecutive Thought Direction
There is no task in the world more exhausting than controlling the course of consecutive thought. Our brainwaves travel at 120 meters per second, creating continuous and instant impulses of thought.

Have you ever tried to clear your mind? Not so easy, huh?

Even if you tried to clear your mind and think of nothing, you're still going to literally be thinking something.

Everyone has this continuous voice of thought in their head. Those who control its direction are masters of their own destiny.

So where do we begin?

Simply monitor your thoughts and determine their direction. I made a couple of brief lists below for your reference.

Positive Thoughts
Love
Happiness
Prosperity
Peace
Generosity
Modesty
Faith
Negative Thoughts
Hate
Depression
Failure
Envy
Greed
Pride
Doubt


As you monitor your thoughts, start to determine which side of the table they are coming from. When you do have a negative thought, immediately couterbalance this thought with a positive one.

An easy way to do this is by making a list of all the things you are grateful for in life -- all the little things that give you pleasure. Essentially, you make a list of positive things.

As negative thoughts flow into your head, immediately replace them with one of these positive things and meditate for a second on it.

Why go through all this?

This exhausting exercise (and it will be exhausting at first) is going to train your brain to change its thought patterns. Once you get into the habit of tossing out negative thoughts like it's a sin, you will slowly begin to think more positively in general.

This TOTALLY works and has been proven over and over.

Another important part of this is taking a moment everyday to reinforce your positive thoughts. I usually spend 5 minutes in the shower giving thanks for everything I am grateful for.

It could be something as simple as being grateful for having friends who love me or a fond memory of a camping trip that I went on. It doesn't matter what it is, so long as it comes from the bottom list

Whatever is positive in your life, take a few minutes everyday to reinforce that good and say thank you to the universe for bringing it to you.

Don't be lazy about this. Monitoring every consecutive thought in your head will be hard. You're not going to catch everything, but stay on it. The more corrections you make to your thinking, the easier it becomes. It gets easier over time because you'll start to have less negative thoughts in your head.

That makes a HUGE difference when it comes to your anxiety and Panic Attacks. Prevent your Panic Attacks with this exercise and start living your life to the fullest ever day.

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Express Your Feelings

Do you express what you feel? Or do you pretend to feel something different?

I think we would be a very different society if as children we would express our emotions but in a functional manner. Channeling our emotions in the correct manner is essential for our wellbeing but it happens that at times de demonstrate something different from what we are feeling. Why do we do it? To defend ourselves? Not to appear vulnerable? To prevent being hurt? For example, in regards to anger, at times it is easier to say "I am angry" than saying "I am depressed." What about if we explore the cause of our depression and do something about it? We don't have to fear our emotions!

Sometimes we wear masks that cover our real feelings but we are not actors and this is not a play. It is our life and it is beautiful. Let's express what we feel but never hurting other or ourselves. I invite you to take a piece of paper and a pencil and draw the face you show to the world. On another piece of paper draw the face you feel inside of you. Now compare both. Do they look the same? Do they look different? What do you feel inside you are not showing? This exercise will help you to communicate with your inner self and to deepen into what you are really feeling. Remember that the feelings we don't express may manifest themselves physically or emotionally. Go ahead....talk, write, share, but always with love, compassion and respect. You will feel better.

Ligia M. Houben, MA,CT,CG-C is a Life Transitions Consultant and Certified Grief Counselor. She is a national and international speaker and her philosophy is to transform the lives of people as they face challenges and losses in life. For more information visit her website http://www.mymeaningfullife.com Tel 305-666-9942.

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If I Had a Hammer

Pogo Cartoonist Walt Kelly coined the phrase: We have met the enemy and he is us. If we can accept that we are all our own worst enemy, the next step is to figure out how to become more of an ally? At the risk of really dating myself, I'm revisiting the 50s folk song written by Pete Seeger and popularized by Peter, Paul and Mary and Trini Lopez. Before I will hammer home some insight, let's revisit the first verse of If I Had A Hammer.

If I had a hammer
I'd hammer in the morning
I'd hammer in the evening
All over this land
I'd hammer out danger
I'd hammer out a warning
I'd hammer out love between my brothers and my sisters
All over this land. 1

Now that's a lot of inspired hammering!

So Why Are We Talking About Hammers?
Let's take the phrase "If I Had A Hammer" and strip away the hypothetical "if" and consider that, figuratively speaking, you do have a hammer. Your hammer is your most highly developed skill or skills. It is the thing or things that you're the best at and enjoy doing the most. And because you are so good, using your hammer brings you the most enjoyment and fulfillment. It may also be hindering your effectiveness. The Trap We all have our hammers. They are what make us both unique and effective. The danger is in overusing your hammers. Because...
If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. - Abraham Maslow

While your hammer is not your only tool, by definition, it is your favorite. If you enjoy hammering so much, where might you be hammering when you should be chiseling or puttying? All of your problems are not like nails. By relying solely on your strengths, you can occasionally miss the nail and hammer your own thumb. Ouch! The Solution to Over-Hammering Our tendency to hammer inappropriately is not a conscious choice, but a subconscious one. So the solution requires enhancing your awareness of what your hammer really looks like. Ask yourself: What skills do I use most frequently and effectively? And then determine where you have been hammering when there are better tools for the job. Your heightened awareness can also help you to recognize when someone with different toolbox is more equipped to solve the problem. In our coaching and development engagements, we use assessment tools to discover which skills have become hammers. Its an opportunity to meet the enemy and become better acquainted. Once that occurs, you expand your opportunities for improved results. And, you can avoid hammering your thumb and missing the nail.

Tom Lemanski is the President and founder of Vista Development, a boutique strategic development firm serving metro Chicago, IL Tom has served as business catalyst and executive coach in over thirty different product and service industries. Tom can be reached through any of the sites below or by phone: 847-726-7707

http://www.vista-development.com
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How to Manage Stress in Your Work Life

Stress is a result of a series of complex reactions that occur in response to certain events and situations in your life. There are many ways of defining Stress. Some researchers categorize it either as Eustress or Distress depending on whether something changes for the better or worse respectively. It is also defined as being in a situation which is very difficult to cope with.

If you are going through a lot of stress in your career which makes it tough going, you've come to the right page. This piece will help you cope with stress.

Since there are multiple causes of stress, understandably, there are many ways to deal with it. Being aware of it isn't enough; you should also know how to manage stress. This requires a change in the way you react to it and so on. Let's see how to go about that.

Beware of stressors: Determine the causes of stress and don't ignore them. Observe the events that bring stress to your work life. Try to figure out the meaning of such events. Also, analyze your reaction towards such circumstances; do you get panicky or physically upset?

Take heed of your reactions: If you really want to know how to manage stress, you'll have to take cognizance of those reactions we talked about earlier. Stress is generated by your perception of danger, either physical or emotional. Take an objective look at the cause as well as your response to it. Recognizing the situation for what it's worth will reduce the intensity of your reactions.

Be reasonable:
• Don't take a difficult situation and make a disaster out of it.
• Bear in mind that it's impossible to please everyone; hence don't make an effort to do so.
• Never exaggerate and view things as extremely critical. Remember, it is not necessary for you to succeed in every situation.
• Keep the analytical quotient high and the emotional quotient low at work. Keep sentiment at bay.
• Think of stress as something you can handle rather than something that overpowers you.
• Maintain a positive outlook and steer clear of "What Ifs".

Maintain both reserves: We are talking about physical as well as emotional reserves. Intersperse some free time with your work. Don't make your work monotonous, and take reasonable breaks wherever possible. Learn to like your work, failing which, find work in a field that is to your liking. Also, developing a friendly attitude towards co-workers will generate a self of well-being.

While undesirable stress has a weakening effect on your body and emotions, "good" stress can be harnessed to improve efficiency. Stress can influence you positively by inducing you to exploit your strengths and achieve goals. Stress can also exhort you to enhance your knowledge and perception at work. But as a negative influence, it will result in feelings of doubt, refusal, anger and depression. These will ultimately have an impact on you and your work.

While you should know how to manage stress, remember, there is no way you can totally eliminate it. Too much of it will butcher you. At the same time, a complete absence of stress can be totally de-motivating. Hence, you need to find the optimal level of stress which can spur you on, not drag you down. Modules like "The Stress Management Masterclass" can teach you how to manage stress at work. You could also download the Stress Management Training program.

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Creative Thinking - Food For Thought!

Most of us would brush aside creativity as a special talent, a gift possessed by a chosen few. Whether it's the field of advertising, art, music or any other, those who "have it" get paid handsomely by those who don't. But if you can't show 'em the money, what do you do? Simple, do it yourself! Sounds hard? We assure you it's far from that! We all think everyday; our minds are working every second; we just need to improve the technique. With a little help from us you could be churning out ideas in no time!

The so called "inherent inability to be creative" is often nothing more than a mind block which can be overcome with a small twist in the way you think. Take a look at the following:

Brainstorming: Pretty much everyone has heard of this creative thinking technique. Brainstorming works best with a fairly large group of people; larger the group, bigger the number of ideas thrown around. Be willing to entertain any idea, even the most absurd. Improvise on the seemingly impossible ideas to see if they can be turned into realistic solutions. Try and get everyone to think outside the box and you will be surprised at what comes out of it!

Just do it (with apologies to Nike): Another tried and tested mechanism is to experiment with possibilities. If you have a new idea that seems impractical, don't stop there. Go on and try it out!! Failures are the stepping stones to success; who knows... your mistake might prove to be your best idea. Edison came up with the electric lamp only after making his own share of expensive mistakes!

Digging into the past: Improvising on an existing setup could benefit from an analysis of the past. Get to the bottom of things to figure out what changes are required. For example, ask yourself what the original purpose was, how it came about, its current significance and reputation. Creative thinking becomes easier when you have a clear perspective on how things are and why they need to be amended.

Playing detective: Asking questions like who, when, where, why, what and how can help you get a clear direction of what you need to do. Coming up with a new product or application could be simplified considerably if one follows this simple rule. Jot your response to each down, so you can draw inferences later. Following this pattern will help you narrow the focus of your creativity.

Dealing with your demons: A mental block, preconceived notions, narrow mindedness; the list of threats to creative thinking is never ending. Solving them, however, requires no more than a willingness to adapt. Let go of inhibitions; don't let 'reality' tie you down. Think freely; work with even near to impossible ideas. Once in the right frame of mind, you will be able to channel your thoughts whichever way you desire. "Boost Your Creativity: Exercises and Advice for Great Creative Thinking", by Robert Allen, available at amazon.com suggests some interesting exercises to overcome your creative thinking challenges.

"Thinkertoys: A Handbook of Creative Thinking Techniques" by Michael Michalko, also contains ideas on ways to boost your creative thinking abilities. You could also visit mindtools.com to learn more about creative thinking tools. Challenge conventions a lot more; if something bothers you, learn to question it rather than accept it as a norm. Isaac Newton questioned something insignificant to discover gravity. Try not to complicate things; the best ideas are often the simplest. So put your thinking caps on and get to work!



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Motivate Yourself With One Great Word Or One Great Sentence

Words have the power to motivate humans to take action. Sometimes just one word or one sentence can be enough to inspire massive action. Such words are worth thinking about every single day and can make a huge difference to our lives. This article takes a look at one such word.

In the Australian soap opera, 'Neighbors', a young man in a wheelchair talks to a teenage girl who is unable to walk after being hit by a car. She is feeling very sorry for herself and is not even attempting to help herself recover. He tells her:

"I know I will never get out of this wheel chair but you can get back to normal."

"Maybe!"

"'Maybe' should be enough!"

'Maybe' is a magic word that is worth thinking about in connection with all our goals. 'Maybe' suggests the possibility of success. Just the possibility should be enough to motivate us to try with all our energy, enthusiasm and determination.

Maybe we will be able to walk again if we do the exercises designed to help us to rebuild our walking muscles. Maybe we will lose weight if we eat less sugar. Maybe we will become stronger if we do ten or more push ups every day.

Maybe we won't be able to walk; maybe we won't lose weight; maybe we will remain physically weak. However, if we really try hard there is a good chance that we will achieve our goals. The possibility of success should be enough.

Even if we fail in everything we try, we will, at the very least, become mentally strong. By carrying out our plans we will already have achieved the most important kind of success whatever the results.

The word 'maybe' can inspire us to think of all the great possibilities that face all humans while they are still alive. Maybe we could help those around us to live much happier lives if, like King Arthur's knights, we do at least one good deed a day.

Maybe we could bring peace to the world by using persuasive words rather than violence. Einstein once said:

"Nothing that I can do will change the structure of the universe. But maybe, by raising my voice, I can help the greatest of all causes - goodwill among men and peace on earth."

Maybe we could make a million if we follow the advice of those who have already made a million. Many millionaires are simply ordinary people who believed that they might be able to reach a million. They followed their 'maybe' and achieved their goal.

Milton Berle, the great American comedian, knew the value of the word 'maybe':

"I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are."

We could all be 'maybes' reaching for a star. Maybe we will reach our goals and achieve our dreams and maybe we won't but the possibility of reaching our goals should be enough to make us try.

In the words of the Australian man in 'Neighbors': "Maybe should be enough!"

Motivation should not have to come from the certainty of success. The possibility of success should be enough. 'Maybe' should be enough!

If you are not working at something because you think you will fail, give it a go anyway. Maybe you will succeed and 'maybe' should be enough. Maybe you will write a book that will entertain or educate many people. Maybe you will benefit greatly from attending that seminar or reading that book.

'Maybe', then, can be a magic lamp that will bring us the results we long for. The sentence: "Maybe should be enough" can be the magic carpet that will fly us to the land of our dreams.

The girl in the soap opera took the advice given her by the young man and gradually recovered the ability to walk.

Today is the fifth day of the first cricket test match in 2008 between England and South Africa. England dominated the first three days but South Africa fought back magnificently on the fourth day. Maybe the South Africans will survive one day in the field and force a draw. Maybe England will get an early wicket and force a win. Ian Botham, the great England all rounder, used the 'maybe' word in describing the situation this morning.

Maybe South Africa will perform a great escape and draw the match. Maybe England will win. However, you can be sure that the chance of a draw or a win will be enough to make both teams play their hearts out during the day. If interested, you will be able to read about the result on the net tonight. Just Google "England v South Africa Test Match."

If you are not already the kind of successful person you want to be, decide today to be a 'maybe who is reaching for a star!' There is a good chance you will reach the star. Even if you don't, you may reach the moon on the way. You will certainly reach a higher level of self-esteem and competence.

Maybe you will find that reading the '36 Laws' by John Watson will help you to achieve your dreams. The book is full of quotations, stories and acronyms that could inspire you to make the most of your own huge potential. Check it out at http://www.motivationtoday.com/36_laws.php

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Are You Living Your Best Life?

What makes successful people get up every day and go out in search of more success? If you were a billionaire would you even bother thinking about making more money? I hope you answered yes because if you did that means that you are amongst the small percentage of people with the correct attitude towards success. Successful people constantly push themselves to achieve greater success. Do you think this is out of greed? No it is not. (Well not all of the time)

It is because successful people understand the importance of challenging themselves. They realise that it is extremely easy for inertia to set in. The problem is too many people allow themselves to get into a rut, it is really easy to say. I can not or its not possible or I could never or I am too old or too fat. Do you find yourself saying these kinds of things to yourself? If you do you are not going to be able to live your best life until you change your thinking, your words and your behavior.

You may even ask yourself why should I bother to push myself? Well only you can answer that question really. But consider this. If you are perfectly happy with your life, if there is absolutely nothing to complain about, nothing that you would like to change, nothing you wished you could do, nothing you wished you had. Then hey, cool. There is no reason what so ever for you to challenge yourself.

But if there is even the smallest amount of dissatisfaction in your life then you need to get up from in front of the couch and do something to improve your life. It does not matter what it is that you want to improve and it does not matter how long it takes you to improve it, what is important however is that fact that you have recognized that there is a need and you drag yourself up and set about finding a way to change your situation.

The worst thing I see on a daily basis is wasted lives. I see so many people with great talents, inquiring minds and amazing skills who have fallen in to the mediocrity pit and have decided to take up residency there. Do not let that be you!

Yes it may take some work on your part and yes, the journey that you embark upon may take you down many different paths and it may take quite some time before you come full circle but the fact is YOU did something, YOU decided enough was enough, YOU went out there and made your best life happen, and YOU are the one who is going to benefit from it. You are discovering your best life now, instead of sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else live a great life and get the things that they want.

Never settle for mediocrity. In fact it really should be against the law. I want you to ban being ordinary in your home. Do not do it yourself and do not encourage your children to be average either. They are better than that, you are better than that and you deserve to be happily, joyously and gratefully basking in the warmth of Your Best Life.

Carol King- is the creator of Inspired Journey a blog guide to personal growth, the law of attraction, personal empowerment, goal setting for success and positive thinking.

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